Ask The Guides: I Am Struggling To Cope With The Loss Of A Loved One

Our weekly dose of support, straight from the Otherness team.

For unique and expert advice, we put your questions to our wonderful guides, to help you face whatever challenge you may be facing.

This week, Lorraine Flaherty, Transformational Therapist and Pioneer of Inner Freedom Therapy offers her wisdom:

"I have recently lost a loved one and I am struggling to come to terms with what happened. I keep asking why this has happened and on some days the grief is paralyzing. How can I move through this?"

Lorraine Flaherty 

“Losing a loved one is never easy and the old adage that time heals is only true to a certain extent… being told that they have gone to a better place, may be placatory on some level… but it is those who are left behind who struggle. 

I believe the most important thing to remember, is that people will die when it is their time to go. When they have completed whatever mission or challenge, they had signed up to before coming to the Earth plane. We have no way of knowing what that might be. It could be something as simple as bringing love or joy to the world and, in some cases, it might even be to experience tragedy. It is all part of the soul’s evolution. Some souls simply volunteer to be here to help others grow - and when they are done with that - they get to leave and go ‘home’. The place where they will be waiting for you when you are done with your own mission. 

How do you manage things in the meantime? You have to look at the bigger picture. Remember that when someone dies and their soul transitions to another place – it is a little like stepping into another room. 

This means you can still speak to them and they can still hear you. So, keep talking to them. It helps. 

Now, it may be a little trickier to hear their replies… that usually happens in the dream state - where the veil between the worlds is thinner. Many people report having dreamt of loved ones who gave them messages of love; my own belief is that these are no dreams. 

Previously, my Grandfather came to see me after he passed and wanted me to tell my mother to quit worrying about him, his message was that he was happy and watching over us all, but that most importantly he was home, reunited with my grandmother and their other children. He asked me to tell her that he heard her when she spoke to him and that he loved her very much. 

It didn’t take away the loss but it was certainly very healing for us all.”

To contact Lorraine and learn more about the work that she does, take a look at her Otherness profile.

Lorraine Flaherty 

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